it’s the worst feeling ,it’s so negative loop that keeps repeating over and over and never stop if you kept saying to yourself “If only”!! If only I did this or said that ,if only I acted differently or made a better choice . The thing is it’s over ,what done is done .it’s in the past and you are Right now and you can’t take a time machine and go back to correct or fix what has already been done .It’s awful feeling I know I have been there and done that and it could take a hell lot of time if you kept beating yourself up for doing that mistake or this poor choice .Regret could be about Huge things like life decision or the little stuff like choosing a meal from a restaurant menu and it didn’t turn out as you expect ,you could experience a little regret like I should have had something else ,it happened with me A lot.My point is The bigger the issue ,The bigger the regret . Regret comes from a place of Knowledge .Yeah you know better now ,that’s why you blame yourself for not knowing better back then when you had to make that choice .if you had that information you would have acted differently.in other words ,when you know better ,you do better I heard these words at oprah winfery show and it hit me ,it’s so true .when you act upon lack of information ,you end up doing poor choices and disastrous things becoz it’s that simple the better you know ,the better you do .So how can you get that information? From books ,from other ppl’s experiences ,from TV shows or even movies ,anything actually that inspires you to do better . Now how to get over that feeling that keeps telling you “ You could have done better than that “ !! First thing is to tell that voice to shut up and fuck off becoz that’s your Ego not you.i had that awful intense feeling of regret once and i felt like shit and i couldn’t take it anymore and that voice inside my head never stopped and i said to it : Just shut up,I dare you to say anything mean about me again and guess what? it stopped becoz it’s not you,it’s the inner critic or Ego.Your Ego is Your sense of Self when you are at your worst . call it the inner critic or whatever ,but there is always that voice that tells you are awful ,that voice is so mean to you all the time ,it’s like you have never done anything right .it always point out to you ,your mistakes and your flaws and it has never been kind to you .So it’s time to stop listening to that voice and treat yourself kindly . we are here to make mistakes and learn from them and we will never stop learning till we die .The most important thing to get over Regret is to feel the pain of regret ,then deal with it and heal it .you will get over it as long as you don’t resist it . Don’t regret Regret ,you have learned your lesson may be the hard way but anyways you gonna do better next time .Don’t be so hard on yourself ,give yourself a break ,it’s all well my friend .
May22
Whispers of the seeker 