Monthly Archives: May 2014

Regret : How to get over it!

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it’s the worst feeling ,it’s so negative loop that keeps repeating over and over and never stop if you kept saying to yourself “If only”!! If only I did this or said that ,if only I acted differently or made a better choice . The thing is it’s over ,what done is done .it’s in the past and you are Right now and you can’t take a time machine and go back to correct or fix what has already been done .It’s awful feeling I know I have been there and done that and it could take a hell lot of time if you kept beating yourself up for doing that mistake or this poor choice .Regret could be about Huge things like life decision or the little stuff like choosing a meal from a restaurant menu and it didn’t turn out as you expect ,you could experience a little regret like I should have had something else ,it happened with me A lot.My point is The bigger the issue ,The bigger the regret . Regret comes from a place of Knowledge .Yeah you know better now ,that’s why you blame yourself for not knowing better back then when you had to make that choice .if you had that information you would have acted differently.in other words ,when you know better ,you do better I heard these words at oprah winfery show and it hit me ,it’s so true .when you act upon lack of information ,you end up doing poor choices and disastrous things becoz it’s that simple the better you know ,the better you do .So how can you get that information? From books ,from other ppl’s experiences ,from TV shows or even movies ,anything actually that inspires you to do better . Now how to get over that feeling that keeps telling you “ You could have done better than that “ !! First thing is to tell that voice to shut up and fuck off becoz that’s your Ego not you.i had that awful intense feeling of regret once and i felt like shit and i couldn’t take it anymore and that voice inside my head never stopped and i said to it : Just shut up,I dare you to say anything mean about me again and guess what? it stopped becoz it’s not you,it’s the inner critic or Ego.Your Ego is Your sense of Self when you are at your worst . call it the inner critic or whatever ,but there is always that voice that tells you are awful ,that voice is so mean to you all the time ,it’s like you have never done anything right  .it always point out to you ,your mistakes and your flaws and it has never been kind to you .So it’s time to stop listening to that voice and treat yourself kindly . we are here to make mistakes and learn from them and we will never stop learning till we die .The most important thing to get over Regret is to feel the pain of regret ,then deal with it and heal it .you will get over it as long as you don’t resist it . Don’t regret Regret ,you have learned your lesson may be the hard way but anyways you gonna do better next time .Don’t be so hard on yourself ,give yourself a break ,it’s all well my friend .

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20 Micro-Lessons from Season One of Oprah’s Lifeclass

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Lesson 1: The False Power of Ego

“What I know for sure is you can’t even begin to love yourself or even be true to yourself unless you know who you really are—separate from your ego.”
 

Lesson 1: The False Power of Ego

“[The ego is] an impostor, imposing on the real you, making you think that you’re something that you’re not.”
 

Lesson 2: Letting Go of Anger

“One of the best lessons for me is learning that revenge is another way for the ego to show itself.”
 

Lesson 3: You Become What You Believe

“Do you believe that you are worthy of happiness? Do you believe that happiness, success abundance, comfort, fulfillment, peace, joy, love is a part of your birthright? Or do you believe something else? Because you will manifest the life that you believe.”
 

Lesson 4: The Truth Will Set You Free

“If you are in any way keeping a secret, or if you are in any way pretending to be something that you are not, you will never ever become all that you were meant to be. It just cannot happen.”
 
 

Lesson 6: Everybody Has a Calling

“Sometimes the calling is something that was just a whisper to you and when you begin to honor that whisper and to follow that, you end up being the best that you can be.”
 

Lesson 7: Aging Beautifully

“When you lie about your age you are denying that part of your life. You are denying energetically the years that you have earned here on the planet Earth. …You are denying your very existence.”
 

Lesson 8: When You Know Better, You Do Better

“Do you know how freeing those words are? How freeing they can be for you? What it means is you don’t have to hold yourself hostage to who you used to be or anything you ever used to do.”
 

Lesson 9: You’re Responsible for Your Life

“If you’re sitting around waiting on somebody to save you, to fix you, to even help you, you are wasting your time because only you have the power to take responsibility to move your life forward.”
 

Lesson 13: When People Show You Who They Are…Believe Them

“When somebody has shown you who they are, believe them. Stop expecting them to be something other than who they are. Believe them. And move on.”
 
 

Lesson 16: Listen to Your Gut

“Your gut is the voice of your higher self. It’s your personal GPS system to guide you and to try to keep you out of danger’s way. Out of harm’s way. That is the gift of fear.”
 

Lesson 18: Do You Eyes Light Up When Your Child Walks in the Room?

“Most of the arguments that you have had in your life have not been about the specific thing but they’ve been about what is behind the thing that you’re arguing about…And if you peel back the layers, what is usually behind the things that we’re arguing about is, Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you? Do I matter? That’s what everybody is looking for.”
 

Lesson 19: Step Out of the Box

“I love that! ‘If you want something you never had, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done.'”
 

Lesson 21: Love Doesn’t Hurt

“Your relationship with your spouse, with your family, with your friends all can change if you get this lesson that took me to my late 20s, probably mid-30s to actually fully realize: Love does not hurt.”
 

Lesson 21: Love Doesn’t Hurt

“When you trust yourself, it means you don’t tolerate being stood up more than one time. …You don’t tolerate chronic betrayal.”
 
 

Lesson 21: Love Doesn’t Hurt

“When you can trust that you love yourself, care for yourself, have enough honor and respect for yourself that you will not allow other people to harm you, then you can succeed in any relationship….It doesn’t mean that somebody won’t hurt you again. It means that when they do, you will know what to do…. You will not let that destroy you.”
 

Lesson 21: Love Doesn’t Hurt

“Love is truth. Love is grace, is joyful.”
 

Lesson 23: Slow Down

“Being in the present moment—if you can learn to do that—begins to change your whole life.”
 

Lesson 24: Newton’s Third Law

“If there are a lot of negative people in your life, don’t look at them, look at the energy that you are creating to attract them. Don’t look at them, look at yourself.”
 

Lesson 25: You’ve Always Had the Power

“The only courage you ever need is the courage to fulfill the dreams of your own life.”