In arranged marriages ,meeting someone or a stranger for the first time could be so stressful or disappointing experience or it could be easy ,flowing and even fun and interesting experience and it all depends on you and your attitude .I’ve met many grooms-to be (3arsen) over the years so I guess as they say practice makes perfect and I think I become almost perfect at meeting strangers Although I didn’t meet or find my soulmate yet but I’m sure I gonna find him someday inshaAllah .wish me luck .so here’s my tips for you girls and if you are a guy ,the same rules apply just change the pronoun from she to he .
First ,He is as nervous as you are if not more .So Relax .He is seeing you and you are seeing him and you both are judging and evaluating each other based on appearance ,personality and many other things .
1-Appearance :Whether you like it or not, people judge you by how you look and dress.it says A lot about you and your personality So put on your best clothes that make you feel awesome
2-Second comes personality ,the way you talk and interact with people ,your pros and cons ,your merits and flaws .The best Quality you can acquire and to show to others is your confidence The more confident you are ,the more attractive you are .it’s all about confidence baby.if you have to act confident,do it.if you have to fake it until you make it ,by all means Go for it .
Second,Don’t be too excited or too bored .in other words ,Don’t be extreme or over.Just be yourself and act naturally.you don’t have to try hard to impress someone or faking who you are .Who you are is impressive enough.Like a Mantra ,Keep telling yourself ,I’m enough,I’m Enough,I’m Enough .Here you go girl 🙂
Third, The talking part ,if you are normally introvert and don’t talk much ,show that part of your personality becoz it’s about being who you are .Don’t be someone else for the sake of impressing anyone .you want someone to like you for who you are .if you are a chatterbox then don’t stop talking.there are some people who love that and would find you enjoyable and fun to be around .
Bottom line :Be you ,you are Enough.
Fourth,Be a Detective : Ask lots of questions ,try to read between the lines.notice the tone of voice ,the facial expressions and the body language .What’s unsaid as much important as what’s said
Fifth,See how you feel in general about the person and the whole thing ,Your emotions are so important it’s your indicator that Everything is going well or not .pay attention to how you feel afterwards and during the meeting .what made you happy and excited,what pissed you off .what you can overlook and if there are any red flags that showed up .
Finally,it’s just a meeting don’t a make big deal of it but it’s a life decision so don’t underestimate it either .At the end ,what’s meant to be will be no matter what .Fate pushes you toward a choice that will change your life completely so be wise .Be picky ,You can afford it to be picky .choose with your mind not your heart .Be yourself and be confident and Make it your motto : Take me or leave me baby 🙂
Good luck to all brides and grooms to be ,I wish you all the best ^_^