we all want to be loved and take care of ,that’ s unquestionable but what happen if u r emotionally empty? Some ppl r emotionally empty ,they look for love and care ,acceptance and approval to be validated by others .the problem starts from childhood when that child didn’t receive enough love and attention from his parents ,he grew up feeling deprived without even realizing it and look for that thing called “Love” but that person turn out to be “love junkie”!!
that craving for love and care and attention becomes addiction
this person has these symptoms of Emotional Emptiness:
nothing fills him up totally or completely esp material things
(money, possessions, expensive cloths ,success ,vacations ,u name it)
Looking for love and care everywhere
when he or she finds the agreeable person ,someone who is good enough in their book and shows some interest in them in any way
the light in their brain turns green and that’s how their addiction journey becomes
they become so interested in that person becoz he or she is the holder of their drug that they want so badly ,the Love and care
they begin to give that person everything ,love,care ,attention ,they try to impress him ,they go the extra mile to make sure that they did everything that they should do to get the prize ,the drug that will make them feel good about themselves,satisfy them and fill them up
when they do their part and nothing is left to give ,their expectations r so high and they can’t settle for less than what they want ,it’s like a kind of bribe but with love and feelings
the other person in the relationship ,could give the same amount of love and care and that when the game is still on ,the person could give them less ,that when they sulk and become kinda disappointed,the person could give them nothing at all
that when their disappointment reach the top of ceiling and hit that person so hard ,they become so violent and attack the other person mercilessly becoz that wasn’t expected after all what they gave of their time ,feelings
the expectations ,the conditions make the relationship like living hell!!!
the true healthy love has no expectations and completely unconditional ,u just give becoz u love to give not becoz u expect something in return ,u give becoz u wanna see the other person happy no matter what it takes
u give becoz it’s what u feel and want to do ,not what u r obliged to do
there r no conditions in true love ,like if he treats me nice ,I will do the same .If he cared ,I will care ,If he did that ,I will do that .this relationship is if relationship .it based on the condition to happen ,to get the other . It makes the relationship like some kind of deal or so materialistic and mathematic one, a one which is calculated by paper and pen and not by emotions!!
that’s why there is a certain pattern in these relationships ,that most likely to end in a breakup.
but that doesn’t mean to accept bad treatment and that includes :ignorance without clear reasons, shouting if u didn’t do anything to deserve that ,Emotional withdrawal when someone stops to care about u or love u becoz he decided to do so ,in that case ,it’s not wise to give and give without questioning or expecting anything in return !
Love should be mutual ,it takes two ppl ,not just one person to receive love .both ppl should feel loved and happy and if u can’t do the math ,get out of Equation!!