Why parents suffer and make their children suffer too?!

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Why parents suffer and make their children suffer too?!

Each parents who identifies with his role as a parent whether a mother or a father suffer Alot in this lifeIdentifying with the role means you think you are the controller of everything regarding that role

For example if you are a mother ,you might think that you “own” your children ,that you have to think for them ,take decisions on their behalf ,becoming overprotective,canceling your own private life and making it all revolves around taking care of your children to the extent of not longer you can have a sense of self without them ,as we say it “You live the role” 🙂

The same thing with fatherhood ,fathers can even become more dangerous becoz the ego of men is so much bigger than that of a woman

When you make motherhood or fatherhood your identity ,the Ego would do everything imaginable to protect that identity 

You would refuse to step out of that role even when your children grow up ,wanting to make their own choices ,wanting to enjoy their freedom and becoming independent .in other words,your children will become less and less dependent on you or even far away from you and it means one thing ,the loss of your own identity 

That is when the Ego releases so much fear inside you telling you “no you cant let that happen “becoz that would mean the destruction of the identity you built which in that case “being a mother”

You try to use control ,emotional manipulation and every other tactic in the book to make your children “yours” ,to still be the authoritative voice of a mother in their lives ,you think you know better ,you tell them what to do or not to do and not just that but even forcing them to abide to your rules 

That when hell breaks loose ,the adult son or daughter now wants to protect their freedom of choice while the parent still wants to control and be “the boss” ,the power struggle rises and it lead to clash of wills 

The parents do not know or understand that their children are free souls that have its own will and freedom to choose ,they choose to come through this channel which represents their current parents so they can help them achieve their mission in life not to hinder their progress

Now the parent can only do one thing which is to guide their offspring once they become adults but the need of control in any way is creating bad karma for the parents

As children,the parents need to feed,protect and take care of their own kids and love them unconditionally and also gave them the freedom to choose and not to suppress that instinct inside of them

 As adults,the job of the parents is only to guide and give their children advice and give the freedom to choose and make their own destiny 

That way both parents and children can lead a healthy life on every level

So parents have to get some facts straight 

(A) they don’t “Own” their children so they have no right to control their choices ,lives and future 

(B) their children are in essence free spirits who has chosen everything in their life including them ,once they hit adulthood they are responsible for their choices and its consequences

(C) according to astrology ,we were living in the astral world ,looking for a channel which is our parents to come here on Earth ,so every parent is the choice of the child to be his parent ,so your child chose you to help him or her accomplish their mission on Earth so please dont stand in their way by thinking you know better!

According to spirituality, All relationships are based on something called “soul contracts”, in which one soul helps another to reach its goal and achieve its mission on earth,so parent-child relationship is the same ,two souls are trying to help each other

(D) Every mistake your children make is the way their soul evolve and expand ,your job as a parent is not to stop your children from making mistakes but to help them learn from them

Once again,I have to emphasize this one more time “You don’t Own Your children”.


About Mai yolyz

hi,it's me,,.,My real name is Mai and My nickname is Mai yolyz. I luv writing and i dream to become a writer someday inshaAllah (God willing) .I remember when i was a kid i used to write be4 even i know how to write.i would just draw all kind of shapes as if it's letters .the pen and the paper fascinated me and when i grow up ,this passion grows inside of me . I began writing my thoughts and my feelings and then turned into writing English poetry and I find in writing whether poetry or prose an outlet for my emotions and thoughts.Writing becomes my friend that listens to me all the time . I started blogging and i find it interesting as ppl u don't know come to read what u write and get inspired by that that feedback from others encouraged me to keep writing and now i can't let that go ,writing becomes part of who i am and part of what i will become :) thanks 4 stopping by ,Hope u find my words inspiring :)

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